‘The Mechanism of Conflict’ by John Ralph Tuccitto

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​The Mechanism of Conflict by John (Ralph) Tuccitto
 
 
Describe a time when you resolved a conflict.  Ugh.  I dread this question.  Why?  It’s like asking me how often I commit to memory something I’m glad to forget.  To answer this question once and for all, I’m not going to describe an example of conflict but the mechanism which all conflict threads.  What is the mechanism of conflict?
 
Expectation.
 
I expect, my life will control resolution without inconvenience.  Compromise is not the mechanism of conflict, it’s the surrender of expectation.  Does a CEO compromise without surrendering expectation, or does an employee compromise by surrendering expectation?  Is the employee’s job to forgive and forget conflict, to SUPPORT the bosses’ expectations?  What if the bosses’ expectations telegraph failure?  Expectation must not compromise success, but it must telegraph failure to compromise ego.
 
Learn from your expectations.
 
 
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Ah, "The Mechanism of Conflict" by John (Ralph) Tuccitto, a title that sounds like it could either be a self-help guide for the philosophically inclined or the latest blockbuster thriller where the fate of the world hinges on understanding an ancient, mystical mechanism. Let's dive into this article with a light-hearted touch, shall we?
 
First off, Tuccitto kicks things off by touching on a universally dreaded interview question: "Describe a time when you resolved a conflict." It's like being asked to fondly reminisce about the time you accidentally walked into a glass door. Who in their right mind wants to relive moments of misunderstanding, especially when they often end with the equivalent of a verbal pie in the face?
 
Tuccitto, in a bold move, decides not to answer this question directly but instead goes on to talk about the "mechanism of conflict," which sounds suspiciously like the title of a rejected '80s sci-fi novel. And what's at the heart of this mechanism? Expectation. That's right, the simple act of expecting something turns out to be the Darth Vader of all conflicts. Who knew?
 
He argues that expecting life to resolve conflicts without any inconvenience is like expecting to eat a donut without gaining a single calorie. A noble but utterly unrealistic dream. Tuccitto then brings up the idea of compromise, painting it not as the hero we deserve, but as the surrender flag we wave when we realize we can't always get what we want. It's less of a thrilling battle sequence and more of a diplomatic concession speech.
 
The comparison between a CEO and an employee's approach to compromise is particularly amusing. It paints a picture of a corporate world where egos are so large they need their own zip codes. The employee is depicted as someone who must "forgive and forget" to support their boss's grand expectations, even if those expectations are about as realistic as a unicorn with a Wi-Fi hotspot.
 
Finally, Tuccitto drops the mic with "Learn from your expectations." This line serves as a philosophical mic drop, suggesting that the path to avoiding conflict is paved with the broken dreams of our unrealistic expectations. It's like saying, "Listen, learn from the times you thought a movie was going to be good despite starring an actor known for making films so bad they're not even so-bad-they're-good."
 
In summary, John (Ralph) Tuccitto's "The Mechanism of Conflict" could very well be the manual we didn't know we needed, teaching us that at the heart of every facepalm-worthy conflict lies our own expectations, dressed in villain's clothing, twirling its mustache and laughing at our naivety. So, next time you find yourself in a conflict, remember: it's not you, it's your expectations. And maybe, just maybe, it's also a little bit you.